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Adjust Myself
Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes, and fit myself to it.
“I can adjust…” We say it so easily, “I do it all the time.”
But do we? Do we really adjust, or do we grit our teeth and bear it.
Do we really adjust, or do we stuff our anger, disappointment, or tensions down… only to explode tomorrow.
If we explode tomorrow, we need to know we did not really adjust today.
But do we? Do we really adjust, or do we grit our teeth and bear it.
Do we really adjust, or do we stuff our anger, disappointment, or tensions down… only to explode tomorrow.
If we explode tomorrow, we need to know we did not really adjust today.
We need to know and accept that sometimes people let us down… Or our image of who they are, or should be, becomes shattered by some very human behavior on their part.
Our relationships do best when we accept that sometimes people behave badly, inconsistently, or thoughtlessly. Sometimes they let us down. Sometimes we let them down. That’s life!
Focusing on disappointments pushes people away. Recognize that we are as flawed as other people and they are as flawed as we are. In the big scheme of things, we are all doing our best, allowing our relationships to become easier, more relaxed, more generous, genuine, and rewarding. Or do we become apathetic?
As Arthur Gordon says, “Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there's all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.”
Life is uncertain. As our life becomes more chaotic, we fall to pieces. This is because we aren’t connected to our divine, or spirit judgment. We become nervous, impatient, and domineering. Any little calamity upsets the façade we hide behind. It takes just a split second of fear to show us how precarious and unstable our life really is.
Anyone looking honestly at life should be able to admit that we all live in a constant state of anticipation and uncertainty. Our minds constantly shift between confusion and clarity. As the Zen saying goes, “Think of life as a series of imperfect facts.” It takes a phrase like this to remind us that when we react with outrage we show we have an unwitting conviction that life should be perfect; or at least “our life” should be perfect.
If I asked you, “Do you expect a perfect life?”
You would probably say, “No.”
Think about how honest your reply really is.
How often do you become angry or frustrated when something really minor goes wrong?
You would probably say, “No.”
Think about how honest your reply really is.
How often do you become angry or frustrated when something really minor goes wrong?
Or, how often do you become angry or frustrated when events don’t turn out the way you wanted? How often do you feel insulted when life refuses to follow your commands?
In such moments, take a deep breath and remember life is a series of imperfect facts. And, just to follow through on that thought, stop and think how many times, those “imperfect facts” turned out to be blessings in disguise.
What’s even more amazing? It’s that sometimes, despite all our confusion, and refusal to adjust to what is, we, occasionally, still use good judgment. So, if our minds contain confusion and clarity at the same time; this means we need to constantly choose between confusion and clarity. Every moment in our lives depends on how we choose or adjust. This is where we have the choice “to adjust to what is”.
We can choose social chaos, personal confusion, or divine order and let our higher self, our spirit, to be in charge. Twelve Step Groups have a saying, “Let Go and Let God”. Adjust to what is.
If during the day, you find yourself in a situation where your blood is boiling or you’re really upset about something, take a step back from the situation. Observe yourself.
How much are you in harmony with your mind, body and spirit. Recognize that each day we live on three levels at one and the same time. These three levels are so intertwined that often we are unable to distinguish one from the other.
Example: You have a toothache, yet you may tend to be grouchy with others. Your emotions tend to be more negative than usual in proportion to your physical discomfort. When physical discomfort, disturbed emotions, or unrealistic thoughts control your thinking; the habits causing your behavior are unhealthy. Those negative emotions prevent you from following your better self.
Take time to count until you are calm. Remember, count up not down and let go, recognizing your Spiritual Source is in charge.
It is in these wonderful moments of “realizing and accepting” that we are not in charge that we have real opportunity. We have the opportunity to change and evolve. These wonderful teaching moments bring our true nature to the surface. It’s our choice if we notice and surrender to the moment because it’s in that moment of surrender we reveal our true compassionate spirit.
That first moment you realize you have no control over what is going on around you - feel as if you’ve lost everything - that precious control you convinced yourself you had: As you surrender, your body shifts, your mind shifts, and you achieve that deep state of peace that only your spirit can give you.
As you realize you can live in your spirit, you become aware that many of your earlier routine reactions were just that - reactions. And, they proved to be quite destructive.
Start today. Practice calmness. Calmness is the best way to live each moment of our lives. The solution for anger, nervousness, tension, or irritability is calmness.
When we remain calm we keep our sense of humor.
When we remain calm, we keep reason.
When we remain calm we are fair under ANY and ALL CIRCUMSTANCES
When we remain calm, we keep reason.
When we remain calm we are fair under ANY and ALL CIRCUMSTANCES
Calmness gives us poise. Living with poise allows those around us to be comfortable and safe because our spirit is peaceful.
When we are peaceful we have poise. When we have poise we are peaceful.
To practice poise; think of yourself as enveloped with calmness and sweetness walking on a bed of happiness. When we are poised, we not only can, but, do adjust to what is. One of the secrets to adjusting to what is happening is walking from a position of poise.
Everything we do should be done from a position of peace. Internal peace is the best medicine for your mind, body, and spirit.
As Peace Pilgrim says, “When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.”
So, Just for today, adjust to what is, and don’t try to make everything go your way. Be willing to take life as it comes, and, just for Today go with the flow. You’ll feel better and everyone around you will feel better too.
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